EnvyEnvy is the first work on that important ingredient of human experience since Melanie Klein's book in 1957. Yet envy has long been identified as the critical element in the negative therapeutic reaction and accounts for at least some of the difficulty in engaging the hard-to-reach. But what exactly is it that the haves have that the have-nots envy? The breast, the penis, generativity, wealth, position, power? After studying the individual qua individual and as a member of a group and community, Harold Boris reached the conclusion that there is something even more fundamental than these - that the basis of envy is life itself. Taking off from this thesis as presented in his previous books, Passions of the Mind and Sleights of Mind, Boris shows that to be living and to grow up, marry, mate and reproduce, can be almost entirely separate from feeling that one truly has the right to do so. There are those who feel authentic and meant to be and they flourish, and there are those who feel that their life and success is an imposture. The former feel alive, the latter hollowed out with dread and culpability. It is as if there is a right that some have and some don't: those who have it - or seem to - are envied by those who don't. Though therapy can help an envious person get better, it also carries the risk of such an increase in self-envy as to bring the treatment to a screeching halt, or worse. Boris shows how at least some of the panic resulting from the self-envy that can bring therapy to an impasse or a disaster can be averted by a careful restructuring of the therapeutic relationship. |
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Then comes the matter of protection from outside the dyad - of child abuse or sexual misuse or castration or defeminization . Finally comes the matter of protection from intraspecies tensions- of what has sometimes been called Social ...
Then comes the matter of protection from outside the dyad - of child abuse or sexual misuse or castration or defeminization . Finally comes the matter of protection from intraspecies tensions- of what has sometimes been called Social ...
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The important matter is not who is who , but that both are → linked by a reversible set of vectors . ... As is well known , when the argument serves as the link , quite soon it hardly matters which side each takes ; indeed , twosomes ...
The important matter is not who is who , but that both are → linked by a reversible set of vectors . ... As is well known , when the argument serves as the link , quite soon it hardly matters which side each takes ; indeed , twosomes ...
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It is not so much the nouns that matter but the verbs - not who does what and with which and to whom , but the nature of what's being done . You can do it to me or I can do it to you , so long as we do it .
It is not so much the nouns that matter but the verbs - not who does what and with which and to whom , but the nature of what's being done . You can do it to me or I can do it to you , so long as we do it .
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Tolerating Nothing | 21 |
Identification with a Vengeance | 33 |
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able activity analyst appear attempts attention baby become begin better Bion Boris breast called child choice choose comes communicate concerning considered container COUPLE course death describe desire differences discovery dream envious envy example experience experienced fact fear feel felt follows Freud frustration function further give given greed hope idea identification important infant interpretation involved kind later leave less lives look matter means mind mother nature noted object once one's pain PAIR particular patient penis perhaps person pleasure pleasure principle possible preconceptions preference present principle projections psychoanalytic question realization regard relations relationship remain represent requires seems selection sense soon sort species story symbol tell therapist therapy things thought turn wish writes York